Valentine’s Day recently passed, its arrival and sudden departure, got me thinking about love, what it means to love, to be loved and what it really means to give yourself completely to another person. It also got me thinking about what Carrie said when she was breaking up with Aleksandr, – “I am someone who is looking for love, real love, ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love”.
“Inconvenient, consuming love”, what does it really mean? Does it mean that you put the person you love before yourself? That you give your love even if it is not convenient to do so? That everything else is insignificant compared to the person who you love? That your life is meaningless without the person you love? If that is the case, then it is A LOT! I want ridiculous, inconvenient love, as so passionately put by Carrie, but am I in a position to give it? Am I able to give what I so desperately crave? … I don’t know!
Passionate, unconditional love, (the love that can be rephrased as ridiculous, inconvenient love – in my opinion) is defined as “the characterization of intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection.” And “that type of love which has no bounds and is unchanging, comparable to true love”, respectively. So, to rephrase Carrie’s statement, she wants true love, with the underpinnings of intense, passionate love.
Having true, intense love is what almost everyone wishes for. We all want to feel that feeling, the feeling you feel when you look your love in the eye, and absolutely nothing else matters, the feeling that when you are down, he/she is there to pick you up, to help you be the very best version of yourself. Everyone wants to want/need that one person so badly that it causes your body to be on fire! We all want to be completely overcome by that type of passion and desire that makes us nothing like ourselves until we get it…aw…sounds magical just thinking about it!…ok, back to earth :)… in the words of Rihanna, “we all want love”, true love.
Thinking about true love and comparing it with what I know and have experienced, I can say this – when you find true love or anything close to it, DO NOT LET IT GO! Hang on to it for dear life! According to a survey conducted by Siemens, about 27% of people actually find true love, so having it, or just a fragment, means that you are darn lucky.
Whatever true, inconvenient, consuming love means to you, whatever you want from a partner or relationship, whatever your heart aches for, never EVER stop searching until you find it… because life is just not worth living without it!
Hope you enjoyed 🙂